Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of people talk about staying positive and thinking positive. Whether they are experiencing challenges, looking for their dream job or finding their soulmate, whatever it is…. Everybody is going to be “positive!!!”
I may sound like a nutjob right now but I think staying positive is what is holding them back from getting what they want. Staying positive feels like I’m resisting the negative and in doing so… ‘what you resist persists’ Right!!!!
The undercurrent of staying positive really focuses on the absence of what we desire. We think “Oh I want – you fill in the blank” and in the same instance we think of the struggle to obtain it.
If you are like most people, which I am, you will spend way more time thinking about the absence of what you want, which will turn into the feeling of that absence, much more than you will focus on the fulfillment of your desire. Which will, in turn, push that desire further away from you rather than closer.
And then you declare “I’m going to stay positive.” More resistance. When we say “I am going to be positive” we put that positive feeling out in the future somewhere. We’ve now doubled our resistance. We are resisting giving into the negative thought (1) by staying positive sometime in the future (2).
A vicious circle you say! It doesn’t have to be. Yet getting out isn’t for the faint of heart. It takes determination. It takes a willingness to hold onto to that desire regardless of what the real world is showing you right now. You’ve built a certain momentum. To shift that momentum you get to shift what you focus on and build a new momentum. It takes faith that what is already inside of you is waiting to show you what you can do.
On the days all you have to hang your hat on is “staying positive” what if you surrendered lack and sarcity rather than resisting it. Be willing to stand in the uncomfortable energy of what is deemed “negative.” What if you asked Spirit to show you something you have forgotten about yourself. What if that “negative” is really a “positive” you’ve been resisting.
Something to think about.
In light and with love
Teri Hunter
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